Communication in Modern Society

Nasa loob tayo ng lipunan na pwede ka ng magsabi ng kahit anong gusto mo sa pamamagitan ng social media platform tulad ng Facebook. In fact, mas naging outlet na nga ito kung saan mas nagiging totoo ang usapan kung idadaan ito sa secondary source tulad ng Facebook status.

isa sa mga paraan ng communication ay ang written language o yung mga ginagamitan ng simbolong katulad ng ABAKADA, depende sa bansang ginagalawan nito. Ito sa mga kagandahan ng written communication ay pwede mo ng ipahatid ang gustong sabihin ng hindi nakikita ng harapan ang taong kausap. Ibig sabihin ay maaari mo ng gamitin ang mga tamang salita upang may maintindihan ang taong kausap.

Ngunit sa pagdali ng pagsasabi ng nararamdaman sa pamamagitan ng secondary source o sa Facebook status lang, nawawalan din ng bigat ang Ibig sabihin nito. Halimbawa, gusto mong magpahiwatig ng pag aalala ngunit hindi ito makakarating kung paanong gusto mo sana itong maihayag dahil iba ang interpretation ng taong nagbasa nito.

kaya't maraming nagkakaroon ng miscommunication kung saan akala ng kabilang panig ay ito ang gusto mong sabihin, pero iba naman ang context na tinutukoy mo. Ang resulta, maraming bagay ang hindi nabibigyang linaw depende sa kung sino ang kausap at kung ano ang pinag uusapan.

ang interaction na ito ay hindi seryoso sa pagitan ng dalawang magkaibigang nag kakamustahan ng pakiramdam nila at magkikita rin kinabukasan. Pero magiging seryosong bagay ito kung ang nag uusap ay OFW family at kailangan mag paliwanag sa nagawang kasalanan. Maaaring iba ang interpretation ng kabilang panig at masaktan pa ito sa context na hindi naman ito ang gusto mong ipahatid.

mahalaga pag usapan ang mga bagay na ito upang makita kung paanong nakaka apekto ang modernisation sa pamilyang pilipino na nakatatak sa kultura ang pagiging malapit sa pamilya. Ang pag aaral na ito ay nag Lalayong matukong kung ano ang pinagdadaanan ng OFW family upang mag cope up sa communication bilang foundation ng relationship.

ang category ng communication ay ang Verbal, Written, at Non-verbal. kung saan ang verbal ay 38%, nonverbal ay 57% at written ay 7% lang na naiintindihan.

sa ratio na ito makikitang maliit ang percentage ng written communication kaya Maaaring hindi talaga natin ito gusto sabihin. Sa totoo nga ay Maaari tayo mabuhay sa sariling mundo kung saan tayo ang nagbibigay ng meaning sa mga bagay na hindi naman tama ang context.

Halimbawa, maaaring ang anak ay nagsabi nalang ng “i love you” para matigil na ang discussion sa magulang pero hindi naman talaga ito ang gustong sabihin. Sadya nga lang na politically correct ang salitang ito. Kailangan din nating I consider na pumipili ang tao depende sa mga choices na magiging beneficial sa kanya, upang ma protektahan ang sarili at maging ang ibang tao.

Ngunit sa pagsabi ng mga bagay na hindi naman talaga natin gusto, tayo nga ba ang kusang pumapasok sa sariling kulungan kung saan hindi na tayo makapag salita at nawalan na ang rason ang dapat sanang two way communication? importanteng maintindihan na sa pakikipag usap, hindi lang dapat panig ng isa ang napapa kinggan o magiging monologue ito. Kung saan nag tatanong ka ng tanong na ikaw rin ang sasagot.

ang puso ng communication ay synthesis o compromise, kung saan ang panig ng dalawang magka salungat na opinion ay mag memeet sa gitna upang mag agree sa bagay na accepted nila.

Ngunit paano makakamtan ang pag balik sa purpose ng communication kung patuloy tayong magsasalita ng mga bagay na hindi naman talaga natin ibig sabihin. Hindi ba't pag galang sa taong ka relasyon, maaaring Magulang o romantic o friend, na mag sabi ng totoo upang magbuo pa rin sa pundasyon ng tiwala at pagtanggap ang basehan ng pananatili? Masyado na nga ba nating sinamba ang salitang “ok lang” para matapos na ang usapan o para buhayin natin sa sarili ang salitang dapat na tuloy pangatawanan dahil ito na ang gustong mapaniwalaan? Pero accurate nga bang nagdedefine sa atin ang salitang ok lang, o naging entry point na naman ito para mapagpatuloy ang pagtatago na hindi naman ok?

Sa kabilang banda, hindi sapat na batayan upang husgahan ang hindi nagsasabi ng totoong nararamdaman. Bukod sa teorya ng komunikasyon, mas kailangan nating tingnan ang psychological aspect kung sino ba ang nagtatanong. Ang relationship ay binubuo ng pagkakaroon ng common ground sa bawat isa. At ang common ground ay kailangang mahinog ng panahon. Ang Ibig kong sabihin ay mas makaka pag open tayo sa taong kilala natin. kung hindi natin ito kilala, mas mahirap maging totoo. At sa context ng OFW family, maaaring hindi na natin kilala ang pamilya natin ay sa pag lipas ng panahon, dumadaan tayo sa Psycho-Social at Cognitive development na nahahati sa toddler, preschool, kids, teens, young adult, adult stage. at ang agents of socialization ay ang mga taong nakaka salamuha natin na nagiging influences para makilala ang sarili.

kaya't maaaring mas kilala pa natin ang ibang taong mas madalas nating kasama kumpara sa family natin. Hindi naman pwedeng sabihing magkulong na lang sa family upang mas makilala sila dahil ang Quantity ba ng time ay mag compensate ng Quality ng time na dapat makuha? Paano kung may barrier at ayaw mag pa kilala ng isa sa mga panig.

kaya't bat socially accepted na lang ang mag tago sa family dahil mas open sa friends? Sapat na dahilan na bang nangyayari ito sa ibang pamilya at kinakaya nilang wala ng communication at dapat kayanin mo rin? Mag aapply ba sayo ang parameter nila? paano ang pagiging “unique” ng bawat isa at ang hindi mapipigilang pagbabago?

Sa agents of socialization, may maibibigay ang bawat agent na dito lang matatagpuan. Halimbawa ang family ay dapat source ng values at acceptance at ang kaibigan ay shared values. Sa shared values, ibig sabihin ang hindi pwede sa loob ng family ay pwedeng gawin sa loob ng lipunan ng mga kaibigan. kaya mas nagiging close tayo because we share the same world, isang socially constructed na lipunan kung saan na sa inyo ang parameter ng pwedeng gawin at bawal na gawin.

Ngunit ang pamilya parin ang tanging agent na mananatili kapag nawala na ang friends, school, church, government, at nation. Kaya nga’t family ang pinaka foundation ng lipunan.

Ang kakayahang gawin ang bagay ng mag isa ay tinatawag na individualism. At sa modern society kung saan mas malaya tayong gumalaw, mag salita, at mag isip mag-isa, tumataas din ang rate ng suicide. Dahil hindi na tayo bound sa ibang tao at kaya na nating gawin gusto natin. Ang pagkawala ng purpose ng buhay ay tinatawag na Altruistic suicide na sinulat ni Emile Durkheim noong post world war 2. Magpapakamatay ang tao kung hindi na niya nakikita ang dahilan kung para kanino siya nabubuhay.

Sa hindi pag sasabi ng totoo sa loob ng pamilya, pinapatay natin ang sarili dahil hindi na sila ang mga taong dapat sana’y una sanang nagbibigay ng acceptance at nagbibigay ng purpose sa pamamagitan ng pag sunod sa iisang values.

Kung iaapply natin ang pagrespeto sa pagkakaiba, ang values na isang pamilya ay hindi nakakahigit sa value ng iba. At isa rin sa dahilan ng pagkasira ng communication ng family ay dahil hindi na iisa ang mga bagay na pinahahalagahan natin.

kaya't upang makilala ang ka pamilya, mahalagang pahalagahan natin ang bagay na mahalaga sa kanila kahit hindi ito mahalaga para sa atin. Ito ang common ground na makapagbabalik ng pakiramdam na “safe” mag open dahil mayroong pinagkaka isahan. Mahalaga ring gumawa ng hakbang at sabihin kung ano ang gustobg mangyari sa pag sasabi ng totoo.

Ang essay na ito ay naglalayong ibalik ang anak sa ina upang maging tatay ang tatay at anak ang anak. Inihayag nito ang kahalagahan ng communication at effort upang maisalba ang natitira.

Sa pagtatapos, dahil kabilang tayo sa isang pamilya, may responsibilidad tayong manatili at buoin ito. Ito ang solution upang mapanatiling buo ang pamilyang pilipino sa gitna ng modernisation.

Assah Music Video (Ngiti by Young JV feat. Gary V.)

Yes to God

when somebody is preaching at the pulpit, maybe a brother or a sister or Pastors or Prophets, they are engaging us in a transaction in heaven. when the word of God suddenly spoke to your heart and you say Amen, it is as if receiving a blank check. The promise you hold is the amount so you have to withdraw till the appointed time. That is the representation of God's fullfilment by Jesus Christ.

An example about receiving and reaping the word is the life of Mary. When Angel Gabriel sent the word, she received it, and the Savior is born. Imagine what a willing heart and the word of God can produce? A simple Amen 2000 years ago changed the world. It set a time on history from BC to AD, Jesus saves. But one fact about saying and reaping the Amen is it always points toward God. MARY'S AMEN ISN'T ABOUT MARY ANYWAY. IT'S ABOUT GOD GIVING HIS SON AS A RANSOM FOR MANY. So the fullfilment of your personal word isn't about you, it's about God being glorified through your life. In fact, your situation is necessary so God can be God in your life, So He can prove that there's no other God like him. And today you'll have more reason to thank him because God won't let his name be trampled down. He will fullfil his promiise for the sake of his name. This is not selfishness, it just happen that you're one of the lives God chose to prove himself. Hallelujah!

God hurts!

If God is good then we should thank Him even in pain. "Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal us later." (Rom. 8:18)

So what are the types of God's discipline? here is what Deuteronomy 8 verse 2 says, "Remember how the LORD your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands"

to humble

to humble means you've been proud. for what's the purpose of a humbling experience if you're already down to earth? and yes, God is healer, protector, and shield but He would rather choose to hurt you than to see you die. He will inflict a severe damage in you up to the point that you're totally broken. He'll hurt you because your favorite sin has to be purged away. And we know that sin's penalty is eternal separation; God loved you so much he will never tolerate it. Once God tolerates your sin it is as if saying, "I am tired of you. I confronted you many times and in many ways but you don't respond. Now, suffer your own decision, I give up!" But that's not the story of the cross because when we don't care for God before, he cared for us most. So your pain is the best lesson you'll have because godly sorrow leads to repentance. And when God is chastening you, He is actually giving you a second chance.

to test

"to test you in order to know what was in your heart" you may be serving God so well but let's not forget his characteristic -jealous God. He is so critical about affection he would test you even if you're evidently faithful. let's take Job for example. He is a righteous man who offers atonement just in case his children cursed God or sinned unintentionally. He appeals to conscience than to mere law, not like the pharisee. God knew his heart and is so confident about Job's faith, he allowed satan to take away everything but not Job's life. At the middle of suffering the Messiah is revealed when Job pleaded that if there is only a mediator for man and God, which speaks of Jesus Christ. Let's take Jesus as example himself. Even before time began, when no one else is created, He said to the Father, ''Here I am, Take me." So before Isaiah wrote it, Christ already did it . He is the wisdom of God, the alpha and omega, and all scripture point to him. In reality He mourned and cried to God about sin, death on the cross, that he never commit. But in order know what was in Jesus heart, test is needed. "Saying, Father, if you be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but yours, be done." Luke 22:42

Don't play politics on Church

One alas for politicians is their technical back-up. today, we see sons and daughters of former politician to enter or remain in politics. Their campaign is a plus factor when a traditional surname is heard. Poe, Estrada, Arroyo, Aquino, Villar, Magsayay, Enrille; and we're not listing the provincial names yet, are for example. They're trying to emphsize the good things that "Name" acquired. It could have been their father or uncle or spouse, but as long as that Name is recognized then it will be used. However behind politics, here we see two kinds of false service;

1.) those who help only to manipulate other's guilt
2.) those who  help in return for something.

Later we will talk about what  the bible say about this attitude and how it can be prevented, but for now let's go to our scripture

"But when he saw many of the Pharisees and Sadducees coming to where he was baptizing, he said to them: “You brood of vipers! Who warned you to flee from the coming wrath? ⁸ Produce fruit in keeping with repentance. ⁹ And do not think you can say to yourselves, ‘We have Abraham as our father.’ I tell you that out of these stones God can raise up children for Abraham."

Matthew 3:7-9

"...who warned you to flee from the coming wrath"

John the Baptist, one day, confronted the teachers of the law about the person who made them realize they're not saved. It could be their conscience rebuking them or someone became vulnerable enough to accept truth and confroted them. By the way, the ministry of John son of Zechariah is the Baptism of Repentance. He cries out "make straight in the desert a highway for our God." It means good deeds isn't the assurance of salvation, but a changed heart connected to the Lord. Having learned of his preaching, the Pharisees and Sadducees then used Abraham as back-up. 

"...do not think you can say to yourselves, we have Abraham as our father"

Technically the blood of Abraham is in Pharisees and Sadducees for they are Jews. They cling to Abraham as being the friend of God. But to us who rely on the blood of Christ shed on the cross, salvation came through the realization of forgiveness greater than anything we can work for.

A brother earns 200,000 a month, for example. He tithes ten percent therefore giving 20,000 to church. He became so enthusiastic and bought new drumset, new bass, new guitar, new keyboards, and even a violin, windchimes, triangle, harp, and lyre. He confirmed his calling deep within and gave up work for good. He became the director of music ministry not only on the local church but on provincial and international conventions also, having a masteral on music and art. But somehing happened on the seventh year of his great walk with Lord. He met a young dancer, became attracted to her, and slept with her. The whole impression of the church is broken. From someone to be look up to, a leader whom every youth seek to follow, to a disgrace in faith because of sin.

This is where politics arise. What can the director do to cling to his position



1.) manipulate other's guilt

obviously the local church benefits from his talent and skill. it is a plus factor to attend orchestraic services, at least for the ears of newbies and the traditional. So he can brag about that valid fact.

2.) help in return for something.


helping the youths and promising minister to hone their potential is his boast as well


The former director brought up his ministry around the world, his on-fire services every sabbath, and the triangles. Now we realize that serving God is not about how much you sacrifice in and out your circle of influence. Rather it is the purity of heart from start to finish.

THE BIBLICAL WAY HOME

As Revelations 3 emphasize,

verses 1-3 "“To the angel^[a] of the church in Sardis write:

These are the words of him who holds the seven spirits^[b] of God and the seven stars. I know your deeds; you have a reputation of being alive, but you are dead. ² Wake up! Strengthen what remains and is about to die, for I have found your deeds unfinished in the sight of my God. ³ Remember, therefore, what you have received and heard; hold it fast, and repent. But if you do not wake up, I will come like a thief,and you will not know at what time I will come to you.

Still repentance is the key to go back to JESUS. And the grace to make things right, break self righteousness, and be washed by the blood of Christ is still new every morning.

to end in conclusion, let's pray for our fallen brothers and sisters who were once on-fire, but find it difficult  to praise God today. Let the grace we need be of the same measure that''ll touch them home. In fact, let's pray to be the instrument broken enough to dig them through. Let the chance we enjoy today be the change they longed to see... in Jesus name Amen.

kung ikaw si satanas/ if you were satan

kung ikaw si satanas, gagawin mo ang lahat wag lang makatanggap ang tao ng salita ng Dios. dahil nakakapag isip naman ang tao pero hindi nila alam ang totoo, bakit hindi mo nalang papaniwalain sa kasinungalingan? bakit hindi mo dagdagan o bawasan? dahil si Hesus naman ang dapat nilang makilala, bakit hindi mo nalang tanggalin mismo si Hesus? likas naman talagang sasamba ang tao at meron ka naman lahat ng yaman sa mundo, pasambahin mo nalang sa pera. Ipamukha mo kailangan nila 'to, 'yan, 'nun, hanggang mamatay sila kakatrabaho. likas namang sasamba ang tao, at palakasan lang naman ang politika, pasambahin mo nalang sa pinsan, lolo, o kahit kapitbahay niya, WAG LANG SI HESUS! basta wag lang nilang malamang tapos na ang plano ng Dios at pwede nang maligtas sa paniniwala lang. Hayaan mo silang gawing 5-6 ang kasalanan, dadagdagan, babawasan. Hayaan mo silang mamatay kakasakripisyo - kahit pa magpapako sa krus - basta importante lang, babalik parin sa kasalanan. dahil ang kabayaran ng kasalanan ay kamatayan, mamatay na silang lahat! wag mong ipaintinding libre ang kaligtasan, hayaan mo silang pagtrabahuhan iyon. bigyan mo ng maraming batas at pagnaibigay na ang lahat, isumbat mo kulang pa! alam mong malapit ng dumating si Hesus, gawin mo na ang lahat para mapunta ang tao sa impyerno. konti nalang ang oras mo, kilos na!

seduction of media

He finished watching TV downstairs. It was a documentary series about animals and its attitude and habitat. The reason is valid. He will report on Science next week for the completion of clearance. He is a normal student, aiming to get the job done; of course, in return for some incentive. The day is ripe but he has some time to spare. The boy quickened for a rest only to find out that the 2 minute  break showing a liquor is in mind. Bodies flashed all around. Bikini babes are dancing on a pole while drinking the product, and a tag line called it off. There his wild enthusiasm starts to accumulate. He got up, turned the PC on, and started clicking its default browser. He goes to Youtube and searches the liquor brand. During its loading ques, a thumbnail caught his attention; "Naughty Nights".

Drowning in curiosity, he opened it and a prompt warning appeared; "Containing adult material... click yes if you are 18 and above". The 12 year old set his registered age to 22 because of social media pretension. Then a click happened. It is the click that consumed his 45 minutes and stole his innocence. Youtube contains pornography. The impression of informative and fruitful video sharing has been broken. Now, adult materials couldn't be blocked by anti-porn programs because even respected site contains one. What happened to men's wholesome purpose to provide update around the world? Does this purpose conceal evil behind? Worse yet, does it tolerate such prostitution once it is passed through?

Mental sex is still sex. And a heart that pursues sex will have sex anytime sooner. It will demand sex in any way and to any one. And sex beyond matrimonial boundaries is sin. Sin will wage death. If we keep bowing down to wrong things, nothing will happen. So let us be aware of the world and its wickedness. But being aware isn't the real thing. It is measured on how we respond to what we now. A kid won't hesitate drinking hot water unless he once burned. It is the realization of being hurt that taught him to be caution while drinking. And so it is with real life. Sin, unless it is realized to be harmful, will be ignored until nothing is left but a shattered resentful life.